Do You Take Your Friends For Granted?
It seems that in this digital age, with the means and ways of communication a plenty, and much better and faster than they used to be, The social ties between people are getting weaker, friends seem to take each other for granted. knowing that they can be reached at ease at any time, they don’t seem to put much importance on being in touch with the ones that are supposed to be of importance to them.
I am not talking of course about calling up a friend to go and hang out at the mall or go to the cinema or what have you, but to just call up a friend and ask how he/she is doing, how his life is and whats been going on with him/her in the days/weeks/month that has passed. only out of real true concern.
It amazes me how some people take their friends for granted, especially the ones who care about them the most, for you might never know if the last Good-Bye you said to him/her a month ago since you talked would be your final and last. Indeed, I know of some people who do not make the simple effort of talking to their supposedly “best friends” for days and weeks, they get calls and they get asked about by their friends, but the effort is not mutual. and at some point the person who cares might just stop caring if he senses that his/her friends just doesn’t show the same kind of care and concern. This though does not cross the careless one’s mind, for he/she takes his/her friends for granted.
Taking somebody, especially those who are closes to you for granted is a dangerous thing, it can lead to a serious fracture in the relationship and may lead to to a total loss of it. sometimes people will make excuses, like, oh the hardships of life are preventing me, or I just don’t have the time these days, or I don’t have credit in my mobile phone!. Lame excuses if you ask me. and as they say in an Arabic proverb: ‘othron aqbaho min thanb. which means the excuse is even more awful than the fault itself. That is true, for if you really and truely care for someone, you will most certainly find the way and means of contacting them, I cannot imagine that in this age of the Internet and mobile communications one cannot find the time or mean of checking on a friend, either by a phone call, a text message, Instant messaging, or even a simple email.
We must understand that these are the things that really matter in life, these simple things that bring us joy and pleasure, the things that bring smiles to our faces and warm our hearts. one must not take these for granted for you might never know when they will be taken away from you.
March 11th, 2008 at 8:29 am
ahhh bakkouz! you’re shaking my guilty conscience. Need to call some friends! :oops: absolutely true.
March 11th, 2008 at 9:06 am
back in spring 98, i was in a car crash, which i lost my first bf to, after that i vowed that i will tell the ppl i care bout ‘ i love u ‘ every single day even if it bores them out of their skulls! coz life is too short and u never know how we go.. my parents also, i tell them that on every call and sms.. coz they tend to forget :mrgreen: lol
lovely post bakkouz
March 11th, 2008 at 9:14 am
lah ya bakkouz ele bebee3ak bee3o :P
lovak ana :D :******
March 11th, 2008 at 9:26 am
Batoul: I’m sorry, I did not mean to
VA: Too true, people might think this is trivial, but these simple things make all the difference, and as they say you really can’t appreciate the value of something until you lose it.
Sharkooseh: ro7 albi inti wallah :*****
March 11th, 2008 at 11:59 am
Ouch. Okay, tonight I’ll call my best friend in the US. You’re making me feel bad (in a good way). Fortunately, I don’t have many friends :), teehee. Hey, Bakkouz how are you doing? (Does that count?!) Great reminder and very fine post.
March 11th, 2008 at 12:43 pm
MommaBean: Yes, you do that :grin:
March 11th, 2008 at 3:36 pm
This couldn’t be more timely for my husband and I. We just lost a friend a couple of weeks ago that we’d lost touch with and so I have to add my AMEN to your post. There we many times we were on our way across country and could have stopped in or just called and didn’t…… We’ve learned a hard lesson. Thanks for the post.
Mary
http://www.revealedreflections.com
March 12th, 2008 at 10:13 pm
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March 25th, 2008 at 10:44 pm
And thats why I love you man.. you’ve been a supporting friend and a hard working ass… and we need to meet YA QAMEE2
April 14th, 2008 at 2:40 am
This is so true!! Letting those who are important to us know what they mean to us goes a long way. We will be glad that we did if something were to happen to them.
Bill
June 11th, 2008 at 1:03 am
October 18th, 2008 at 10:00 am
Is true my friend……..either we are so busy we still have time to text ……just couple miniute .then wala it send.thank for the good thought.