~ Middle Eastern Mentality And Parent Love
This is a thought that just crossed my mind, do we take our parents for granted? do we communicate with our parents especialy the Father, do we really show them the attention they deserve? most of us value their friends and friendship, most of us often call our friends and talk to them about various things and stuff that happened to us druing the day and open up to them in a way we do not with our parents, why is that? is it our middle eastern mentality? the western world doesn’t seem to have this issue, and the most important thing, we tell our friends how much they mean to us all the time, but ask yourself, when was the last time you told your parents you loved them? Meditate on this.
February 23rd, 2006 at 2:18 pm
well, its not the western or eastern thing.. its the same i guess.. its just that our parents dont usually understand us or do with us the same our friends do.. we live really great moments with our friends maybe more than our parents, u know that more than all cuz u dont live with them.. its not also about openess cuz im open with dad(more than mum) but i dont love him.. he’s just my dad.. its like business.. see? with extra care..
February 24th, 2006 at 12:33 pm
I think it’s middle eastern issue as our parents are from very very different age and mentality, my father is about 80 years old and mother younger in a decade How open I can be with them ? will they understand me?
not to mention the cultural of “You should NOT do this and you should do THIS” the cultural of remote controlling your children’s, yes unfortunately it’s exists in our community
I wonder how my parent would understand me attached to computer while I had good chances to work in other fields, and I wonder How your family would understand you having Angelina Jolie poster at the top top of your room while they’re both committed.
it’s not easy as anyone would thought it would be…
March 22nd, 2006 at 11:36 am
This is a late comment while I am exploring the wonders of your blog. I was interested with this post deeply since I have the same problem of finding difficulty in expressing love to my father and mother although I totally adore them. For me, my father is my role model in life and I have not said that in words but wrote this sentence in the dedication that I gave to them in my book. Still I could not say it in person until now.
I have a strange anthropoligal and cultural explanation which is about us Circassians. We are too rigid in communicating between generations, and even though our Adiga Khabza traditions have loosened up lately we still have a “psychotic” respect to the older people especially fathers that stops us from healthy emotional communication.